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Don’t let your boss ruin your work life

Question :

I am having a really hard time at work and am at a complete loss as to what to do. My boss hates every8thing I do – it’s just not good enough for him. I try to do my best before I submit my proposals, but everything is rejected. I’m trying not to take it personally, especially since I’ve never had this problem with previous bosses and always received glowing reviews from them. However, I’m starting to wonder how I can continue in such a situation. Please help.

Posted by Help on Saturday, 16 Aug 2014

Comments :

By the time you see this response, you may have already left the job. In a work environment, we have to accept that we have our own views and work styles that may conflict with others. 

It sounds like your new boss doesn’t like your output and you have neither found a common ground nor clarified expectations before moving forward.

First, you need to find an opportunity to have a one on one meeting with your boss. Tell him about the purpose of the meeting and ask for at least an hour of undisrupted time to discuss the issue. 

In the meeting, seek to understand his actions and reasons for rejecting your deliverables. Be as specific as possible and listen to his explanation, and hopefully you will get some clarity. %If you find a way to improve the situation, that would be an excellent outcome.

However, if you find this problem is caused by a personality clash, it is trickier. One of you will have to go and it is unlikely that it will be your boss. 

In this case, you need to ask yourself this question: why should I continue if I am going to be unhappy at work? The other option is to seek advice from your HR department.

Most companies have corporate values or principles that say similar things such as “treating people with respect” or “we value diversity. Before you meet with HR, it is important that you have done your homework and are ready to show examples of work that was rejected by your boss.

If the situation still has not improved, remember jobs come and go every day, and there are thousands of vacancies in the job market. We spend one-third of our life at work and we deserve to be happy and, more importantly, to be a contributor who makes a difference. 

At the end of the day, this incident will only help you become a stronger person. Good luck! 


Sidney Yuen, chairman and CEO, HBC, is an expert in the human resources outsourcing, technology and consulting fields.


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