CEO of HBC
Should I take an initial 'pay cut'?
After a huge falling out with a colleague, I really want to change jobs. The only thing is, the offers I've been getting are half of what I'm currently on. They are big name firms and there may be good quarterly bonuses further down the line but it's not guaranteed and it all depends on company performance. And it's only if the bonuses come through that my pay would be the same or a bit more. I know it may sound childish to jump ship to avoid my colleague but I'm starting to dread going to work and I don't want to waste any further time here. What do you suggest?
Sidney Yuen - Career Doctor
Posted Friday 21st February 2014 11:15:00 PM
Dear Belinda Should you take a pay cut? My simple answer is “NO” unless for a very good reason. It seems that the only reason that you want to change job is because of a sour relationship that’s developed with a colleague. While I can understand how you feel particularly if you have to work with the concerned colleague, you may want to see if you can turn that relationship around. The simple way, yet the most difficult one is to ask for a chat with that colleague. Say, ‘I want to talk with you as we have some differences between us and I am committed to clear any mis understanding.’ It is likely he or she will respond and explain his or her side of the story. During which you will listen empathically. Most often, problems such as this would disappear if both parties sit down to talk and listen to each other. However, it takes courage to start. So if you take the first step, you may discover how easy it is. Before this conversations begins, it would be a good idea to step back to do some self-examination. Instead of focusing on the action – the how, let’s focus on the why? Why do you want to leave? How did this happen? Was this caused by one incident or had it been like this for a while over a number of incidents? How much work satisfaction do you have with your current job? Does it give you good learning and career prospects? Have you talked with your HR colleague who may be able to provide some insights? I am sure that they want to see good teamwork and would do whatever to resolve people problems by being a facilitator. They may have other alternatives that you may not be aware of, such as an internal transfer opportunity to a position that you do not need to deal with that particular colleague. Belinda, the key is communication. I want to share with you a quote from a famous philosopher; Victor Hugo. “The future has many names: For the weak, it means the unattainable. For the fearful, it means the unknown. For the courageous, it means opportunity.” My advice for you is to be courageous and to set up a time between the two of you to talk things through. And I promise you, miracles will happen. Good luck. Sidney