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Question :

I feel trapped in my dead-end job, like a chess piece that gets pushed around by management. You could say I'm having a mid-life crisis and I feel it's now or never to quit my soul destroying job to do something of my own. My family is not supporting of this and prefer I stick it out to retirement. Advice for an old timer like me? Or should I just be practical and carry on?


Posted by Dreamer on Monday, 07 Oct 2013

Comments :

Robert White

Posted Sunday 3rd November 2013 01:09:00 PM


Sidney, I love your response to dreamer and hope he learns from it and more importantly, acts on the sound advice. Of course, thank you for the gracious acknowledgement of my book, "Living an Extraordinary Life." It is heart-warming to learn of the value readers have created as a result of reading it.

Sidney Yuen - Career Doctor

Posted Saturday 26th October 2013 02:39:00 AM


Dear Dreamer I am certain that you are not alone in this situation. Maybe you are, like you said, having a mid-life crisis. I can also understand how your family’s view that they prefer you to keep your head down and to go through this phase with a steady income stream to support the family. I will be blunt. Life is not about compromising, it is about living with a purpose. I believe that everyone has it and it is a matter of discovering it so that we can focus on the tasks that get closer to this mission. And we all have our unique talent, the contribution of our talent synergizes to an outcome greater than ourselves. We have seen many leaders whom we admire; Steve Jobs, Mother Theresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Viktor Frankl etc. I would like to offer you 10 questions, by answering them, I hope that you will be clearer to what your decision is going to be. 1. What matters to you most? 2. What makes you happy? 3. What constraints do you have that prevent you to do what you want to do? 4. What are you good at? 5. What would you end up in 5 years if you continue to do what you are doing now? 6. Who do you admire? And why? 7. What are your value or belief? 8. Who do I want to help? And why? 9. What are your bucket’s list? If not, develop one 10. If you had to share a skill that you are good at, what would you share? Answer the above questions without thinking too much, enjoy the process of writing and once finished, list out some of the action words and people involved, a picture will evolve of how you would like to live your life you love. Dreamer, I recommend you to read a book called “living an extraordinary life” by Robert White. In one of his chapters, he challenges his readers; are you living to survive or surviving to live? Most people are doing the former, giving up who they are in the name of survival. I hope some of this has awoken the dreams that you had and I hope you build a plan toward living a passionate life, and leave the dreaming to others. The choice is entirely yours.

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