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Question :

Hi, doctors,

I am feeling very frustrated.

I think it is very important to understand the thoughts of the boss during a career development.

However, I always do not know what he wants, and hence I have to spend much more time to finish one task. I have worked with several bosses before, and I have never come across with this. I have spent 1 year already, hoping to understand his working style.Nonetheless, it seems it doesn't work.

This makes me have an idea of quitting the current job. Then, I come up with another problem that I do not know what kind of job I would like to do...

So I have two questions and hope that you may give me some advices:
1. Is it a right move to quit the job because of this reason? (It's difficult for me to make an internal transfer inside the existing company) 2. What can I do to help myself to find my direction during my career development?

Many thanks,

Posted by Elle on Sunday, 22 Sep 2013

Comments :

Sidney Yuen - Career Doctor

Posted Wednesday 2nd October 2013 08:22:00 PM


Dear Elle It is important to understand your bosses’ expectations of you and of how he perceives you. In fact, the number one reason why people leave an organization is their relationship with their boss. You are avoiding the opportunity to learn about relationships and communication if you resign now. I have the following questions, and by answering them, they will give you some insights 1. When was last time you felt motivated at work? What was the task at hand? Who were you working with? How often do you feel that way? 2. What kind of people would you like to be with? What kind of people would you not like to be with? Write down the answers to both on a piece of paper; 3. What did you learn last week, last month? How does this learning apply to your current job? What kind of impact did that make to your peers, customers and your management? 4. How important is your output to your boss’ performance? Have you discussed your performance during your performance review? What did he say? Answering these questions will give you an idea of what makes you tick and how assertive you are in your search for career advancement. There is no career planning, even if there were such an exercise, it has little value. The thinking would be that you take charge of your own career development, and you should ask for help and not wait for programs initiated by your employer. My advice is as simple as ABC – Awareness, Belief, and Commitment Awareness - there is an old Chinese saying, ”Know thyself, know the enemy, you would win most battles.” First, you need to find out your unique capabilities in the career that you aspire to, and start making a plan to get there. Belief – Your brain is the most powerful organ, use it well. If you change your mind, you will change your life. If you think you can do it, then you can. If you think you can’t, you are also right. Commitment - Once you have a plan and you believe that you can do it, the rest is sheer determination and discipline is the key to success. Go ahead and give it a try, you will be surprised how easy it is to find a career instead of a job. Good luck!

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